Monday, January 13, 2014
A Light at the End of the Tunnel
Sometimes in our lives we find that the journey we have taken or where we may be at this very moment is not where we wanted to end up or we may open our eyes to see the person we are with is not who who we wanted to end up spending our later years with and you think this is how it's going to be for the rest of my life.
This is a message to most husbands and wives. We grow up and marry the man or woman we fall in love with, have children with this person, build a home with this person, share our bed with this person, cook and clean, love and adore. We take a marriage vow that promises to love, honor, and cherish until death do us part but then as time passes we begin to see a different side to the man or woman, we begin to see all of them or as some say their true colors begin to shine through. The person who in the beginning was happy all the time, bought you flowers, said I love you 10 times a day, could not bare to be without or away from one another because you yearned to be with them every waking moment and when he or she walked through the door you were there to greet them with a kiss hello. You begin to loo at this person with uncertainty, after 30 years you are not so certain you want to be with them anymore. The bed that you once shared now only occupies one because you have moved into the guest room because his snoring makes you literally want to smother him in is sleep. You look at he or she and they are not handsome or beautiful anymore. Their skin is wrinkled and the lips that used to smile now seem to stay turned down into a frown of unhappiness and anger. The eyes that use to sparkle are now dull and lifeless as if the life has been drained from them. You decide you don't want to be with them anymore, you decide you are not in love with them anymore. They have done nothing wrong you just don't love them. You aren't happy anymore and you want to feel like you did when the love you had was new. You want to feel that shiver that used to run through your body when they touched you, you want that feeling back when you would walk into a room and it was as if you were the the most beautiful person in the world as they look at you with such passion. This my friend is when you need to "STOP"take a moment to think about this situation. Is this not the same person whom you fell so deeply in love with so many years ago? Is this not the person who held you close and whispered sweet nothings in your ear and made you feel so loved and so secure? This is the same person only they are not twenty years old anymore, they are still working those long hours to help to ensure that the two of you are still provided for, the same person who sat up at nights and help you rock the children as they cried due to a sickness and the same person who would love you even as your hair turns to gray and the once smoothe skin begins to wrinkle from the years of living a life that was sometimes hard and sometimes came with many struggles but never with more than you could bare. Why you find your self saying silently to your self would I even think of leaving the one person who has always stood beside me even when there were times I was in the wrong. Why would I ever think of leaving the one person who always let me be me and allowing me to be exactly who I am with my little qerks and oddities, the person who still kisses me good bye in the mornings and who stops to wait for me when I am some times walking a little behind. The one who has held my hand through all the good and all the bad and I close my eyes and pray.
Dear Father in Heaven, thank you for all you have given to me and my spouse, for the lovely times we have shared, the beautiful children we have raised and to the grandchildren to come. Thank you Lord for your patience with us through the years as we have learned to love and as we have grown into a loving aging man and woman Lord. For alllowing us to grow strong in faith and in one another. Bless this marriage Lord and forgive me for thinking if even for a moment that I could ever live without this person, for there is no other on this earth Lord who could ever hold a candle to this love of my life and Lord please I pray, allow us to continue to enjoy one another's love throughout the years to come and to cherish the love Lord that has taken us to such a content place. Thank you Lord for allowing me to live, laugh and love with such a beautiful ,heart and soul. Amen....
To all of us marriage isn't just a vow of the words I DO. It is a holy, spiritual union between to people who promise to love for ever, so when your feeling a little sad for yourself and being a little selfish, pause for a moment and stop to thin maybe it is you that needs to laugh a little more, whimper a little less, and love like there's no tomorrow and remember it takes two to make a house a home and a heart feel loved.
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